Chapter 10: Sublime Dating, Love, and Relationships
Of all the divine connections in life, intimate relationships can often have the most energy draining effects if one is not careful to treat their bodies as a temple. No other connection can allow for a human being to give up their power as easily as intimate connection. However, on the other side of the spectrum, a person can also use intimate connection with another person to learn of their own truth and gain a magnified energy to an exponential degree. Exchange of energy is actually a very real and necessary part of the survival of our species.
In this chapter we will examine how the understanding of self can attract energy and its correlation to dating. They say that the eyes are the window into the soul. The association to this metaphor can be seen very clearly in the chemical reaction that occurs when two people stare each other directly in the eyes. Levels of oxytocin are released when individuals stare each other into the eyes for long periods of time. The chemicals minimize stress and create a sensation of peaceful happiness. Understanding this can help you see the chemical reaction of dating. Now, we will talk a bit about the spiritual connection of dating.
As stated before, the spirit is your “life force.” So, when there is a spiritual connection with a person, you can literally feel their life force connections without even looking at them. This type of connection is incredibly powerful, and it is what one might refer to when they talk about a “soul mate.” Best friends also experience this sensation, which being said explains why so many people who are in long lasting relationships refer to their partner as their “best friend.”
“For every beauty there is an eye somewhere to see it. For every truth there is an ear somewhere to hear it. For every love there is a heart somewhere to receive it.” – Ivan Panin
I once asked an old man “Which is more important, to love or to be loved?” He replied “Which is more important to a bird? The left wing of the right wing?”
“Your task is not to seek love, but to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” – Rumi
Never rush into falling in love, because love never runs out; let love be the one to knock at your door. Besides, true love is worth waiting for.
“We often want it so badly that we ruin it before it begins. Overthinking. Fantasizing. Imagining. Expecting. Worrying. Doubting. Just let it naturally evolve.” – Anonymous
“You demonstrate love by giving it unconditionally to yourself. And, as you do, you attract others into your life who are able to love you without conditions.” – Paul Ferrini
Respect people who find time for you in their schedule but love the people who never look at their schedule when you need them. The person who loves you is not the one who sees you every day, but the one who looks for you every day. I don’t want the perfect relationship, because perfect is impossible. I love imperfections. I want worth it. I want trustworthiness, honesty, loyalty and love. I don’t want a perfect person. I just want someone to act silly with, someone who treats me well and loves being with me more than anything.
It’s beautiful when you find someone that is in love with your mind; someone that wants to undress your consciousness and make love to your thoughts; someone that wants to watch you slowly take down all the walls you’ve built up around your mind and let them inside.
I regret opening up to some people; they didn’t deserve to know me like that. Be careful who you open up to, only a few people care; the rest are just curious.
“I think I fall in love a bit with anyone who shows me their soul. This world is so guarded and fearful. I appreciate rawness so much.” I want to give you the kind of love that’s not distorted and fabricated, but real, raw, and honest. Never leave a person who touched your soul more than your body. Take your time, take it slow. No rush. No fuss. Love like you’ve never loved before….
If you love a flower, let it be. If you pick it up, it ceases to be what you loved. Love isn’t about possession; it is about appreciation.
“Love me without restriction, trust me without fear, want me without demand, and accept me for who I am.” – Unknown
“Your significant other is allowed to have meaningful relationships with other people. Your significant other is allowed to get things from those relationships they don’t get from you. Demanding you be the only source of pleasure and support in their life is possessive and toxic.”- Unknown
Once upon a time, an angel and a devil fell in love. We are all seeking people whose demons play well with our own. Find someone who knows all your mistakes and weaknesses and still thinks you’re completely amazing. Everyone comes with baggage. Find someone who loves you enough to help you unpack. Show me all the parts of you that you do not love so I know where to begin. Crawl inside this body, find me where I am most ruined- love me there.
“A holy relationship is where the brokenness and wounds of the world are not escaped so much as transformed by love, not hidden from but risen above.” – Marianne Williamson
“They say love is blind. I disagree. Infatuation is blind. Love is all-seeing and accepting.” – Anonymous
I want to sleep with you, I don’t mean have sex. I mean sleep, together, under my blankets, in my bed with my hand on your chest and your arm around me. With the window cracked, so it’s chilly and we have to cuddle closer. No talking, just sleepy blissfully happy silence. Cuddling literally kills depression, relieves anxiety and strengthens the immune system. I just want you to know that I love you even though you’re not naked right now. I just want you to be happy, and maybe just a little bit naked.
“If I lay here, if I just lay here. Would you lie with me and just forget the world” – Snow Patrol
“I just want to see you – Nothing beats seeing someone in person.” – Unknown
I can’t promise to solve all of your problems, but I promise you won’t have to face them alone. If you get scared, let me know and I will hug you a little tighter. Everybody should have a place where they feel absolutely safe.
Your soul mates are people who mend your broken heart, by simply giving you theirs Happiness is inside yourself, not with another person.
“The greatest gift you can give somebody is your own personal development. I used to say, “If you will take care of me, I will take care of you.” Now I say, “I will take care of me for you! If you take care of you for me.” – Jim Rohn
I’m not searching for my other half, because I’m not a half. Codependency is not love, it is driven by the agreement that I will work harder on your problem and life than you do.
You don’t need another human being to make your life complete, but let’s be honest. Having your wounds kissed by someone who doesn’t see them as disasters in your soul but cracks to put their love into is the most calming thing in this world.
“None of your scars can make me love you less. I simply don’t care where you live and what you earn. I accept you the way you are. I appreciate that you shared your past with me, and I am, thankful that your future is here with me. I love you unconditionally.” – Aarti Khurana
“You will never be too much for someone who can’t get enough of you.”- Pastor West
“Love is the soul’s life. It’s not who you’ve been with, it’s who you end up with. Sometimes the heart doesn’t know what it wants until it finds what it needs.” – Pam Halpert
Buddhists say: If you meet somebody and your heart pounds, your hands shake, your knees go weak, that’s not the one. When you meet your “soul mate” you’ll feel calm. No anxiety or agitation.
“Your soul mate is not someone who comes into your life peacefully. It is who comes to make you question things, who changes your reality, someone that marks a before and after in your life. It is not the human being everyone has idealized, but an ordinary person, who manages to revolutionize your world in a second.” – Anonymous
“A spiritual partnership is a partnership between equals for the purpose of spiritual growth. Spiritual partners use their delightful experiences together as well as their power struggles to learn about themselves and change themselves – Our energetic fields respond to trauma and healing energies. They also react to emotions and love. When people interrelate, their energy fields experience distortions and merge. We can even swap energy with people hundreds of miles away.” – Mohsen Paul Sarfarazi Ph.D.
“A masculine energy force chooses a great feminine energy force as part of a spiritual enhancement to magnify and attune to a higher frequency. If a masculine energy chooses feminine energy that is vibrating at a lower frequency for lower chakra reasons, i.e. casual sex for example, he does not want to do the work required to shift his consciousness into being an even greater masculine. You can always see the character of a person by the partner they choose.” – Anonymous
Not all thin girls were pretty. Not all fat girls are ugly. When you fall for someone’s personality everything about them becomes beautiful. If I choose you, it won’t be because you “look” good to me physically… It will be because you “feel” good to me spiritually. I love you, not for who you are, but for who I am when I’m with you. A boy makes his girl jealous of other women. A gentleman makes other women jealous of his girl.
Egoic insecurity doesn’t see the love that is laid before them. God sent you love, yet you forsake the packaging without consideration for its contents ( or vice versa,) Simultaneously viewing your sacred potential suitor as irrelevant or competition rather than an intimately co-operative ally. Hearts not parts. FreeLove Liberates.)))
“The feminine’s highest calling is to lead the masculine to his soul so as to unite it with The Source. The masculines highest calling is to protect the feminine so it’s free to walk the earth unharmed.” – Cherokee Proverb
“Even after all this time, the sun never says to the Earth, ‘You owe me’ Look what happens with a love like that. It lights the whole sky.” Trying to control someone is the fastest way to push them away. Find a partner who encourages you to grow, who won’t cling to you, who will let you go out into the world, and trust that you will come back.
“Everyone says love hurts, but that is not true. Loneliness hurts, rejection hurts, losing someone hurts, and envy hurts. Everyone gets these things confused with love. Yet in reality love is the only thing in this world that covers up all pain and makes someone feel wonderful again.” – Meša Selimović
The easy part of love is finding someone to love. The hard part of love is finding someone to love you back. You know that tingly feeling when you like someone new? That’s called “Limerence,” it’s basically common sense leaving your body.
“Sometimes you can be so dope and rare, that a person won’t know how to handle it and will mess it up before they figure it out.” – Unknown
“We often want it so badly that we ruin it before it begins. Overthinking. Fantasizing. Imagining. Expecting. Worrying. Doubting. Just let it naturally evolve.” – Anonymous
If you don’t want your heart easily broken, don’t let you heart be easily taken. Never apologize for having standards. People who really want to be in your life will rise up and meet them. Nothing is sexier than someone who wants you just as much as you want them.
“Never love anyone who treats you like you’re ordinary.” – Oscar Wilde
Love doesn’t hurt, loving the wrong person does. Falling off a bridge hurts less than falling in love with the wrong person. Yes- some love is better than none, but I can do bad all by myself. Once you learn how to be happy, you won’t tolerate being around anyone who makes you feel any less. If you knew what a star you are, you’d stop settling for less. Unless it’s mad passionate extraordinary love. It’s a total waste of time. There are too many mediocre things in life; LOVE should not be one of them. If you’re giving your ALL to someone and it’s not enough, you’re giving it to the wrong person.
“Maybe we feel empty because we leave pieces of ourselves in everything we used to love.” – R.M Drake
“Learn difference between connection and attachment. Connection give you power. Attachment sucks the life out of you.”- Unknown
“You know what your problem is? You get attached, fast, and once you’re attached to someone, you do everything to please them and make them happy. It’s never been about what you want, it’s always everybody’s needs before your own. You give too many chances, to people who quite frankly do not deserve them. They take advantage of you and you become a pushover. But you’re okay with that because they’re in your life, and that’s all you ever really wanted. Even if they screw you over, you’re still there for them, because that’s you, that’s who you are. Once you get attached to someone, they capture your heart, and they always have a place there. That’s why it’s so hard for you to let go.” – Unknown
“It is weakness to think someone is dependent on you, and that you can do good to them. This belief is the mother of all attachment and through this attachment comes all our pain. Therefore, developing the attitude of non-attachment is the great lesson to learn in life, and when we have learned it fully, we shall never be unhappy… By no attachment you overcome and deny the power of anything to act upon you.” – Unknown
All that glitters isn’t gold. Just because someone looks good, doesn’t mean they’re good for you. Spoiled milk is still white.
“You must learn the difference between connection and attachment. One gives you power, the other sucks the life out of you.” – Anonymous
“They’ll make you like them a lot, make you think they’re your world. Then, finally when you get this feeling that they’re different, the whole damn situation changes and suddenly you’re nothing they ever wanted and you’re just left there. Stuck in thinking that you need them, when you don’t and in relation, they’re not even good to or for you.” – Anonymous
Don’t let your loyalty become slavery. If they don’t appreciate what you bring to the table, let them eat alone.
Your life will get better when you realize it’s better to be alone than to chase people who don’t really care about you. Love cannot be found where it doesn’t exist. There’s a difference between being patient with someone & wasting your time.
I’m not chasing you, begging you, or stressing over you. Do I want you? Of course, but I won’t wait on you. If you are constantly trying to prove your worth to someone, then you have already forgotten your value Together or not, if I invested my time and feelings into you there is certain shit you just don’t do out of respect. You can’t just come into someone’s life, make them feel special, and then leave. The worst feeling is someone making you feel special just to leave you hanging, and you must act like you don’t care at all.
“One of the cruelest things a person can do is to awaken someone’s love without the intention of truly loving them.” – Anonymous
“Love doesn’t die because of distance; love dies because of doubts…The most painful goodbyes are the ones that are never said and never explained.”- Unknown
I don’t chase people anymore. I learned that I’m here, and I’m important. I’m not going to run after people to prove that I matter. At your absolute best, you still won’t be good enough for the wrong person. If it doesn’t open, it’s not your door. If you’re giving your “all” to someone and it’s not enough, you’re giving it to the wrong person.
Relationships aren’t hard work. Relationships with the wrong people are hard work. Fall in love with someone that doesn’t make you think love is hard and never lets you fall asleep thinking you’re unwanted. One of the most expensive things you can do is pay attention to the wrong people. I’ll fight for you, but I’ll never fight over you. If you’re entertaining somebody else, they can have you
“I believe that love is not based on effort. For example, if you want cold water, I fan the cup a million times, then someone else walks by with ice. Similarly, if you want something from a person, maybe those wants are expectations. So, I work with blood, sweat and tears to reach your expectations; and then suddenly someone else just comes by and has that thing you’ve been looking for- so you go with them instead.” – Anonymous
At your worst you’ll still be worth it to the correct person.
He only treats you like shit because the first time he disrespected you, you taught him it was okay. “The irony of compromising your morals to please others is that eventually even they will stop respecting you for having weak resolve.” – Saas Tasleem
When someone shows you who they really are believe them the FIRST time.
Why give second chances when others are waiting on their first?
“Stop being lied to and manipulated. An adult should be able to learn from their mistakes and not repeat them. If your partner keeps doing the same thing over and over it’s because they know you’re not going anywhere. You’ll keep getting what you keep tolerating.”- Tony Gaskins
If you keep telling someone something over and over again, and they don’t change. It means they don’t respect you.
Don’t complain about someone not treating you right. If you know you deserve better, why are you with them? Sometimes you have to try not to care, no matter how much you do, because sometimes you can mean nothing to someone who means so much to you. It’s not pride. It’s self-respect. At some point, you have to realize that some people can stay in your heart but not in your life. Sometimes, we have to let go of what’s killing us, even if it’s killing us to let go.
A wrong relationship will make you feel more alone than when you were single. It’s better to have loved and lost than to live with an idiot your entire life. Let go or be dragged.
Ever loved someone so much, you would do anything for them? Yeah, well, make that someone yourself and do whatever the hell you want. Decide this minute to never again beg anyone for the love, respect and attention that you be showing yourself.
“If you’re having a hard time letting go, realize that if they wanted to stay they’d still be there.”- Anonymous
Let go or be dragged.
“I’ll fight for you, but I’ll never fight over you. If you’re entertaining somebody else they can have you.” – Anonymous
Love is like a fart, if you have to force it, it’s probably shit. Go for someone who’s not only proud to have you but will take every risk and effort just to be with you. You deserve someone who would jump fences to be with you. Not someone who is in the fence about being with you. “And finally, you realize that you can’t force ‘it’ to be something. You can’t force consistency, loyalty, or even honesty. You can’t force them to keep their word, or to communicate, or to realize something special is in front of them.”
***That awkward moment when you have to get over someone you never even dated.***
“Never forget that walking away from something unhealthy is brave, even if you stumble a little on your way out the door.” Mandy Hale
“You deserve a relationship that you don’t have to question.” – R.H. Sin
Repeat after me: “I am enough.” Sometimes people stay single because they’re tired of giving their all and ending up with nothing Not everyone who is single is lonely, not everyone who is taken is in love. Stop asking why I’m still single. I don’t ask how you’re still married. Being single sucks, all I get to do is whatever the fuck I want. Relationships are like garage sales from a distance they look interesting, but up close it’s just a bunch of shit that you don’t need. It’s the best feeling when you realize that you’re perfectly happy without the person you once thought you needed the most. You treated me like an option so I left you like a choice. Once I stop caring about you, good luck getting that back.
Never get too attached unless they also feel the same, because one-sided expectations can mentally destroy you. If someone doesn’t appreciate your presence make them appreciate your absence. You need to stop doing things for someone, when you find out it’s expected rather than appreciated. I detach from people when they’re full of shit, without warning.
I don’t miss you. I miss the person at you pretended to be, so don’t get it twisted. Fuck you very much. I want to write “I love you” on a rock and throw it at your face so you know how much it hurts to love you. Treat me like a king and I’ll treat you like a queen. Treat me like a game, and I’ll show you how it’s played. “Don’t pay them any attention, because you had your turn and now you’re going to learn what it’s really feels like to miss me.” – Beyoncé
“Closure” is a joke. The only apology you need is the one you owe yourself for staying as long as you did. The only conversation you need to have and that only person you need to see again is the person in the mirror. Look at yourself and say “You know what, I fucked up. My worth is more than that.” That’s your closure. You can’t keep dancing with the devil and wonder why you’re still in hell.
I’m mad at myself, not at you. I’m mad for always being nice. I’m mad for apologizing for things I didn’t do. I’m mad for getting attached. I’m mad for thinking about you, but most of all I’m mad for not hating you, when I should.
At some point you have to realize that some people can stay in your heart, but not your life. I love you, but I hate you. I miss you, but I’m better off without you. I want you out of my life, but I never want you out of my heart… You can’t be “just friends” with someone you’re madly in love with. The hardest thing to do is watch someone you love, love someone else. The theory of the multiverse says there are infinite parallel universes containing every possible solution. It makes me happy because I understand that somewhere you loved me back.
If you’ll cheat with me, you’ll cheat on me.
“Seduce my mind and you can have my body, find my soul, and I’m yours forever.” – M.D. Waters
If it’s her soul you are after, then you must not compliment her on something silly such as her eye color or outfit choice of the day. You ought to compliment her on the books she’s reading, or the way she walks with purpose, or how her eyes seems to always be seeing something so much more than everyone else can see. If you notice her passions you will suddenly, very quickly, become one of them. – S.G. Kilbride ‘How to Love Her I’
Don’t play hard to get, be someone hard to forget. People are attracted to confidence more than physical features. Never underestimate the seductive power of a decent vocabulary. Sapiosexual: A behavior of becoming attracted or aroused by intelligence and its use. I hear you find it unattractive when people curse, I guess we won’t be fucking anytime soon. There’s nothing sexier than someone who refuses to give a fuck [care what other people think.]
Whenever you feel intimidated, remember, they poop too. The best relationship advice I can give you is to make sure you are the crazy one. “I’m not your type? That’s strange I thought sexy as hell was everyone’s type. Benefits of dating me: You will be dating me. I could go on, but I think I’ve made my point. I’m not flirting, I’m just being extra nice to someone who is extra attractive.” – Anonymous Don’t lead, I’ll wander off bored. Don’t follow, I’ll get lost. Walk beside me and help me cause trouble. I don’t go for looks; I’m attracted to a person’s personality…. Disorder.
“What you seek is seeking you.” – Rumi “Opportunity dances with those who are already on the dance floor.” – Jackson Brown
Don’t make decisions when you’re angry or horny.
I want to be cute with you. Love doesn’t need to be perfect it just needs to be true.
Stop waiting for Prince Charming. Get up and find him. The poor idiot may be stuck in a tree or something.
Relationships aren’t hard work. A relationship with the wrong person is hard work. “Fall in love with someone that doesn’t make you think love is hard.”- Anonymous.
“I hope you fall in love with someone who never lets you fall asleep thinking you’re unwanted.” – Anonymous
MANTRAS
I am enough.
I do love myself unconditionally.
I understand that true love with another is reflective of one’s humbled value of self.
QUOTES TO LIVE BY
“Love sought is good but given unsought is better.”- William Shakespeare
“I make love to my art every day. I’m not searching, I’m letting love find me.” – Ashley Germanotta
“It is when you no longer feel the need for something that this something will come to you… the feeling of needing something comes from the thought that you don’t have enough, and so you continue to create not having enough of this something.”- PEJ
“I have learned to not worry about love, but to honor it’s coming with all my heart.”- Alice Walker
“Be the person you want to find. Don’t be the nickel out here looking for a dime.”- Lyfe Jennings
“Never compromise yourself to a level you already have passed… opposites do attract to an extent, just make sure they are on that level as well.”- Anonymous
“If it looks good, you’ll see it. If it sounds good, you’ll hear it. If it’s marketed right, you’ll buy it; and if it’s real, you’ll feel it.” – Anonymous
“Laughter is the way to true love.” – Anonymous
“Maybe some people aren’t meant to be tamed; maybe they’re supposed to find someone just as wild to run with.”- Sex and the City
“Beauty is only a light switch away.” – Anonymous
“Confidence is a must; cockiness a plus. Edginess is a rush.” – Britney Spears
People love surprises, so surprise them!
“I have goals, confidence, and ambition. I know exactly what I want and how to get it. What can we do for each other? Be original, be unique, and we both might just get what we’re after. I’m CONFIDENT in validating MY OWN existence, a significant other is a perk of knowing thy self.”- Charles Smith
“Find somebody who makes you a better person. You are who you’re around.” –Beyoncé
I admire consistency in a human.
“If you don’t like the peach, walk on by the tree.”- Joss Stone
“When someone SHOWS you who they are- believe them the FIRST time.”- Maya Angelou
“Being a busy [person], living a beautiful life, I want to spend time with someone who understands independence in both our lives and does not become insecure and needy. THAT would be remarkable.”- Dana Banks
Limerence is a cognitive and emotional state of being emotionally attached or even obsessed/infatuated with another person, typically experienced involuntarily and characterized by a strong desire for reciprocation of one’s feelings, but not primarily for a sexual relationship (although it can further intensify the situation).
“Your lights are on but you’re not home. Your mind is not your own. Your heart sweats, your body shakes. Another kiss is all it takes. You can’t sleep you can’t eat. There’s no doubt you’re in too deep. Your throat is tight, you can’t breathe. Another kiss is all you need…”- Robert Palmer ‘Addicted to love’
“You can close your eyes to the things you do not want to see, but you cannot close your heart to the things you do not want to feel.” –Anonymous
“I’m selfish, impatient, and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I’m out of control and at times hard to handle; but if you can’t handle me at my worst, you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.” – Marilyn Monroe
“When you know better, you do better.” – Oprah
“If someone seriously wants to be part of your life; they will seriously make an effort to be in it.” – Anonymous
“No matter how many coins you throw into a wishing well, or the numbers of fingers you cross. If it’s not meant to be it simply won’t be.”- Anonymous
“I didn’t really know NOT to let all my feelings show; to SAVE SOME for LATER so OUR LOVE would be GREATER.”- Janet Jackson
“Learn to be lonely, learn to be your one companion. Never dream that out in the world, there are arms to hold you. You’ve always known, your heart’s on it’s on. So, laugh in your loneliness. Learn to be Lonely.” – Andrew Lloyd Webber and Charles Hart
“Disciplining yourself to do what you know is right and important, although difficult, is the high road to pride, self-esteem, and personal satisfaction.” – Unknown
“Do you not see that all your misery comes from the strange belief that you are powerless?” – Unknown
“Yes, when you see for the first time, a great laughter arises in you—the laughter about the whole ridiculousness of your misery, the laughter about the whole foolishness of your problems, the laughter about the whole absurdity of your suffering.” – Osho (Also relevant to mistakes)
“Being the nice guys means no one gets hurt, except me.” – Steven Tudor
“Do you think, you can fall for someone like me? I find it hard to trust, I need too much, and really don’t believe in love… Do you think that I can be the one that you seek? Sometimes I don’t let things go, I get emotional, and sometimes I’m just out of control… You need to stop for a minute, before you get too deep up in it…Everything [isn’t] what it seems, it’s hard loving [someone] like me… Don’t get me wrong, my loving is SO strong; I don’t want to lead you on.” – Beyoncé
“That don’t impress me much. Say you got the look but not the touch? Don’t get me wrong, I think you’re alright, but that won’t keep me warm in the middle of the night.”- Shania Twain
“Sometimes you have to let go of the one you love to find out if there is something really there.”- Anonymous
“Sometimes you put walls up not to keep people out, but to see who cares enough to break them down.”- Anonymous
“Nothing is “IMPOSSIBLE” when it comes to LOVE, so if it’s not impossible, it’s not LOVE!” – Anonymous
“I say I love you, not to hear it back. I say I love you, because it’s fact.”- Charles Smith III
“Emotion is my passion, but I wear my heart on my sleeve like it’s a new fashion.” -Dwayne Carter
An “ex” is called an “ex” because it is an Example of what you shouldn’t have again in the future.
“It is strange how often a heart must be broken before the years can make it wise.” – Sara Teasdale
“If you let go a little you will have a little peace. If you let go a lot you will have a lot of peace.” ~ Ajahn Chah
“The best way to avoid disappointment is to not expect anything from anyone.” – Anonymous
“Never allow someone else be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.” -Anonymous
“The only people you need in your life are the ones who prove they need you in theirs.”-Anonymous
“The best LOVE is the kind that AWAKENS the SOUL and makes us reach for more, that plants a FIRE in our HEARTS and brings PEACE to our minds.”- Nicholas Sparks
“There’s always a truth behind a “JUST KIDDING,” a little emotion behind “I DON’T CARE,” a little pain behind an “IT’S OKAY,” a little “I NEED YOU” behind “LEAVE ME ALONE.”- Unknown
“If you love someone there is no other urges other than the ones they satisfy.”- Tyler Burdette
“Ego holds, love liberates.”- Maya Angelou
“The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.” -Thomas Merton
“You may notice that you are no longer in all kinds of dramas that other people are engaged in. It is not a loss. It is the birth of a higher more loving quality born of the fullness of experience. It is the birth of love that is truly unconditional, without expectations or demands.” – Osho
***Separations and Breakups***
“I’m not upset that you lied to me, I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you.”- Friedrich Nietzsche
“What do most of the people do when they are hurt by anyone? They make their nerves so tensed that they just get in the trap of migraine. They burn their time in thinking about that person by whom they were hurt. As a result, they do not have time to think about themselves and about their love ones. It brings total disorganization in their professional and personal life. They carry on the burden of the tension on their shoulders, consequently they get physical as well as mental illness. Who’s harm do they do?
In fact, they harm themselves. They themselves ruin their health, wealth, power and happiness while their enemies enjoy health, wealth, power and happiness. Does it mean we should not think about revenge? We should definitely, but we should always think about the positive revenge. Instead of wasting time and energy in rubbing the small line, a larger line must be drawn. Instead of thinking to eliminate your enemies, think to make yourself so powerful that it becomes impossible for your enemies to throw you out of the ring of professional and personal life. Always remember success is the best revenge, as it makes you S- Superb, U- unique, C- courageous, C- conscious, E- energetic, S- strong, S- satisfied.”- Vanshika Anand Famous Indian Writer and Teacher
Don’t dwell on who let you down, cherish those who hold you up!
“You didn’t love her. You just didn’t want to be alone. Or maybe, maybe she was good for your ego. Or maybe she made you feel better about your miserable life, but you didn’t love her, because you don’t destroy people that you love.” – Callie Torres
“I forgive you and set you free. Your actions no longer have power over me. I acknowledge you in your process of unfoldment. You are free. I am free. All is well between us. Peace is the order of the day.”- Anonymous
“I got along without you before I met you and I’ll get along without you a long time after you’re gone.”- Willie Nelson
Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.
“An “ex” is called an “ex” because it’s an Example of who you shouldn’t go for again in the future.”- Anonymous
“I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they’re correct. You believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself; and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.” – Marilyn Monroe
“If your partner isn’t a revolutionary, he/she will persuade you to be a slave.” – Anonymous
Standards- hungry just not that thirsty.