Chapter 9: Rapturous Sexuality
Much of this book has been devoted to acknowledgement of self, without identity. In this chapter we will talk about identity as it relates to one’s sexuality. A large percentage of the world has a very narrow view of what sexual identity really means. It is only within the past 40 years that the world has developed terms that describe those who have not connected with terms like heterosexual, homosexual and bisexual. Even those terms to distinguish between the sexual attraction of the individual were not coined until 1892, although the identification of homosexuality & bisexuality were prevalent. Despite the lack of the actual terms, homosexual or bisexual, similar terms have been used to describe individuals such as Socrates since very early on in human history.
Homosexuality has been documented in art and literature in Ancient China as early as 600 B.C.E. In fact many writings during the Liu Song Dynasty claimed that homosexuality was as common as heterosexuality during the 3rd century. Even transgendered individuals have been identified and even revered since ancient times. As a majority of history is written by a biased majority, transgendered individuals aren’t often acknowledged in history books. However, many ancient tribes across the globe and Roman historian Plutarch have depicted the deity known as “The Great Mother” as an intersex deity. I acknowledge these truths to give the reader a sense that the variety of identity that is present in our world that is often seen as a modern conception, has been present since early times. This being said, I would like to talk about the importance of the acknowledgement and acceptance of one’s own sexuality.
In Chapter Six, I touched on the subject of cultural identity and how the world around us can often dictate what our identity means. This same type of prejudice that the world projects, can lead to discrimination based on sexuality as well. Remember that only you can create your own self-worth. Whatever you identify as, treat it and the identity of others, the same as you would like to be treated. We live in a special time, where the internet allows us to be aware of what others identify themselves as. Even identities that do not base attraction on genitals, but rather the spirit of the person, such as pansexuality are very prevalent today. My point of this chapter is to help make the reader aware of different views of sexuality and to become comfortable in their own.
Homosexuality
“… the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.” – 1Samuel 18:1
Mother nature has gay animals; therefore, homosexuality IS natural and can be interpreted as a DIVINE form of population control thanks to heterosexuality having far too many children and possibly overpopulating our planet. We’ve trashed our planet and depleted our resources. If our species is to survive, we MUST cut back on consumption TREMENDOUSLY, yet we still need sexually creative stimulation to survive. Just because you can reproduce doesn’t mean you should.
“People who ‘don’t understand’ same sex relationships make me laugh because fuck, I don’t understand Korean, but I still know it’s a real fucking language.” – James Ingleton
(During the 2012 presidential election, gay marriage and marijuana usage was legalized in some areas of the United States) It all makes sense now, gay marriage and marijuana being legalized on the same day. Leviticus 20:13 – “If man lays with another man he should be stoned.” We’ve just been interpreting it wrong all these years.
God wants spiritual fruits, not religious nuts.
“Any Catholics out there giving up hating the gays for lent or is it just ice cream again?”
If homosexuals had a book that said religious people should be stoned to death, how long will it take for it to be called a hate speech? Who knows, maybe the church shames gay sex just to keep the alter boys quiet. The new pope says gay adoption is child abuse. Since when did the Catholic Church become experts on ch… Oh yea right never mind.
“My son told me today that he is gay. I was so relieved. I thought he was going to be a priest or some perverted shit like that!” – Anonymous
Gender Binaries & Roles
“Some men aren’t meant to be warriors; some men are meant to be philosophers and need to be protected.” – Unknown
“Toxic masculinity and homophobia are ingrained in everyone who has been colonized and conditioned against understanding and respecting variance in gender and sexuality.
As a Black man, resistance to divergence is expressly proximate to me, because of who I am and my proximity to my people. In short, I am conditioned to have more experience with black homophobia because I am most around black people.
Black men are hyper acutely aware of my divergence from the standard, because of lack of variance in socially allowed examples of masculinity in our communities.”- Baba Siete Saudades of The Myriad
All humans begin as female. Men have nipples because the Y chromosome- which is only present in males- is not activated for the first 5-6 weeks of embryonic development. So spiritually speaking as we honor our roots, through also honoring the great feminine spirit within ourselves, we gain a more robust understanding of the source of the sacred masculine spirit.
“Touch isolation and how homophobia has robbed all men of touch: The lack of gentle platonic touch in men’s lives is a silent killer…
… And so, we start early with our sons, privileging self-reliance and emotional toughness over the encouragement of close physical contact and emotional expression…poor American parents, they’ve got the definition of strength all wrong. They’re so busy ensuring independence in their little sons that they are giving birth to generation after generation of men who can’t create community… who withdraw into isolated emotional bunkers from which to stand their ground. We have created an alpha obsessed, my-way-or-the highway man club. And the saddest part of this entire equation is the following fact: the need to connect emotionally and the ability to be cared for and comforted is a crucial human capacity, without which we cannot live full, connected, emotionally intimate lives…
I reject the notion that men don’t crave intimacy (which includes the need for honest and authentic self-disclosure and empathy) as much as women in our friendships. When I [create a safe space], I’m finding that men are as fully capable, and in fact as sincerely interested, in full disclosure and admittance of the need for intimacy and honest sharing. They are craving the same kind of depth and closeness in their friends as women do, but for the most part they’re simply not getting it.
Another casualty of homophobia is male affection. As much as gay men have faced the brunt of homophobic violence, straight men have been banished to a desert of physical isolation by these same homophobic fanatics who police lesbians and gays in our society. The result has been a generation of American men who do not hug each other, do not hold hands, and cannot sit close together without the homophobic litmus test kicking in.
As long as any kind of male affection automatically reads as sexual (and given widespread cultural homophobia threatening,) men of all orientations are suffering and becoming emotionally stunted by a lack of homosocial intimacy and its painful lack in men’s lives.
Generations of puritanical sexual shaming has put the fear of the sexual first in all our interactions, we have thrown out the baby with the bathwater, especially in American culture, men avoid all contact rather than risk even the hint of causing unwanted sexual touch. Homophobic prohibitions against male touch are hurting straight men as well, which is one clear reason why gay rights are human rights.
In American culture, we believe that men can never be entirely trusted in the realm of the physical. We collectively suspect that, given the opportunity, men will collapse into the sexual at a moment’s notice. That men don’t know how to physically connect otherwise. That men can’t control themselves. [That men are repressed.] That men are dogs.
Accordingly, it has become every man’s job to prove they can be trusted, in each and every interaction, day by day and case by case. In part, because so many men have behaved poorly. And so, we prove our trustworthiness by foregoing physical touch completely in any context in which even the slightest doubt about our intentions might arise. Which, sadly, is pretty much every context we encounter.
Not only do we men distrust others in this muddled realm of physical touch, years of shaming and judgement have left us distrusting ourselves. Did I enjoy that too much? Am I having taboo thoughts? This distrust leaves us uncertain about touching another human being unless we have established very clear rules of engagement. Often, we give up and simply reduce those rules to being in a relationship. We allow ourselves long-lasting comforting touch with our girlfriends or boyfriends. The vast universe of platonic human touch is suddenly reduced to the exclusive domain of one person and is blended into the sexual. That’s a lot of need to put on one person, however loving and generous they might be.” – Mark Greene
Women are NOT the exclusive gatekeepers for gentle touch and the feminine, just as men are not the exclusive gatekeepers of rugged stoicism and the masculine. Women, who, as [the illusionary egocentric exclusive gatekeepers for gentle touch] are carrying a burden they could never hope to fully manage. Free love is the answer.
“American women talk a good game about wanting men to connect emotionally, but it takes a strong woman to care for a man in the same way that men are asked to care for women. Because when the tears and insecurity of men are finally teased out, many women say, “You’re not the man I thought I was with. You’re just looking for your mommy.” Indeed, we are [Our relationships are reflective of our intimacy issues with our parents, or lack thereof.] Yet, the shock of that dirty little secret is only a challenge if you expect your man to provide emotional care without seeking it in return; because when you open up the well of suppressed male pain, it’s a storm that will wreck every conventional macho Hollywood assumption about men you ever had. We are not strong. We are weak. Because we have not faced our own demons. And, in part, this is because when we attempt to do so publicly, we are shamed and rejected, often by our own wives and partners. Immediately made to walk the plank all over again.
The cult of independence tells little boys over and over again to “man up” as if that is the single answer to all the world’s problems. Not surprisingly, we are dealing with a lot of angry and violent boys, who, as an expression of their emotional isolation, lash out over and over again. When tough independence is our society’s highest valued personal trait, bullying is socially inevitable. Because bullying is, at its base, an expression of loss, isolation, grief and jealousy. It is the rage of boys, who are wracked with confusion. “What is suddenly wrong with wanting to be held, comforted and kept safe? Yesterday you held me. Today you pushed me away. [Again, our relationships are reflective and often parallel our intimacy with our parents, issues or lack thereof.]
Meanwhile, this inability to comfortably connect via touch has left men emotionally isolated contributing to rampant rates of alcoholism, depression and abuse. And what if the lack of platonic touch is causing some men to be far too aggressive toward women, who are carrying a burden they could never hope to fully manage? Women, who arguably are both victims of and, in partnership with men, enforcers of the prohibition against platonic touch in American culture.
The voices of male anger rant across the internet; the voices of men expressing anger at women. Women who don’t connect [caused by internalized pain.] Women who are aloof and unkind. Women who simply aren’t there at all. These are the voices of men who have bottled up such deeply seated pain that self-reflection is seemingly impossible. You might as well stare into the sun. And so, they blame everyone else. Unable to see their own pain in others, because no one saw it in them. And unable to connect emotionally after a lifetime of conditioning to adopt tough male stoicism over warm male emotional connection….and women are as responsible as men for privileging and perpetuating the American cult of independence. Treading the cartoon catwalks of gender even as they wax disappointed in the very male stoicism, they are a party to perpetuating.” – Mark Greene
“It’s surprising that men in our society commit suicide at a rate of 3:1 to women [considering the American male privilege paradigm.] I feel part of the issue is that men are expected to be resilient, we teach boys to “man up” by internalizing dysfunctional feelings which forms depression… and they kill themselves.” – Unknown
“It’s often said that the male gender role is that of a provider, but what all goes into making a man a good provider? What do portrayals of masculinity do men look up to? The most common one that I think of is stoic, non-complaining, men of action. These portrayals are exemplified throughout the media. The action hero, badass guy types. They’re the guys who don’t let their emotions get to them and are always able to solve any problem. The men that are most looked up to, are the men that “don’t complain like a little bitch.” (which is a loaded phrase, but I think describes what men think of complainers). The male gender role often seems to be one of valuing the ability to not only solve problems, to not only be resourceful, but to not complain while doing so. The male gender role calls for action, whether or not the action is good or bad.
Clearly this can cause many problems for men. The expectation that men solve every problem, and if you can’t then you’re less of a man, is a hard burden to bear. I don’t doubt that many men have buckled under such pressure. This is possibly one of the many things that can cause male health problems. Also, the fact that men are somewhat barred from talking about their problems limits male discussion in gender issues. Men still have to deal with the internalization of “don’t complain” so they haven’t been able to find their voice in gender discussions. Instead all too often they forego discussing it. On top of that of course, they lack the language to discuss their problems also. It’s a double whammy, first their gender role makes it difficult to even begin expressing their problems and then they lack the language to do it. With that said I think more men are waking up to state of affairs.” – Big Fred
“For every girl who is tired of acting weak when she is strong, there is a boy tired of appearing strong when he feels vulnerable.
For every boy who is burdened with the constant expectation of knowing everything, there is a girl tired of people not trusting her intelligence.
For every girl who is tired of being called over-sensitive, there is a boy who fears being too gentle to weep.
For every boy for whom competition is the only way to prove his masculinity. There is a girl who is called unfeminine when she competes.
For every girl who throws out her E-Z-Bake oven, there is a boy who wishes to find one.
For every boy struggling not to let advertising dictate his desires. There is a girl facing the ad industry’s attacks on her self-esteem.
For every girl who takes a step toward her liberation, there is a boy who finds the way to freedom a little easier.” – Anonymous
“We’ve begun to raise our daughters more like sons… But few have the courage to raise their sons more like daughters.” – Gloria Steinem
“I’m not ashamed to dress ‘like a woman’ because I don’t think it’s shameful to be a woman.” -Iggy Pop
“Why do people say, ‘Grow some balls?’ Balls are week and sensitive! If you really want to get tough, grow a vagina! Those things take a pounding!” – Betty White
“Over and over men tell me that this is the baseline message they get about sharing their emotions. ‘Show me what you’re feeling, but don’t show me more than I’m comfortable with.’
The strength it takes to connect emotionally and to accept care from others is not easy to come by. To express emotion, display grief, show vulnerability and process pain requires a degree of personal integrity and self-reliance that far outstrips what is needed to bully or dominate others. The capacity to be vulnerable in American culture is nothing short of superhuman. It’s the first step toward self-reflection.
According to some masculinity theorists, we are in the midst of a crisis. For centuries and across cultures, mature masculine psychology was achieved through the intimate relationship between the mature and immature masculine, the tribal elder and the young initiate, the father and the son. The processes that used to usher boys into adulthood have eroded, leaving recent generations of men increasingly wounded, underdeveloped and uninitiated — starving for the vital connection with mature masculine energy. This yearning is father hunger.” – Mark Greene
“Not surprisingly, most men in Western culture avoid serious discussion of this God-given need. Over the course of my life, I have been fortunate to have guys with whom I have achieved deep and emotionally intimate friendships. I love and cherish them all. Like all meaningful relationships, it hasn’t been easy.
It is my contention that in the case of guys with same-sex sexual attractions, honest emotional intimacy with men is what we truly want. But it is also what we are very afraid of. Learning how to receive love and give love is scary. Genuine, brotherly love may stir up a lot of learned sexual responses and emotional exclusivity for many of us. But to develop close, [homosocial] friendships and relationships, we must push through our fears and loneliness. Intellectual understanding alone doesn’t change us. New experiences do.” – Mark Greene
“The extreme hyper-masculine “elitist” that socially isolates himself and fails to nurture/bless the gender-fluid source of divine energy idolizes himself as faux leader. Thereby, corrupts and disrupts energy flow from the source of existence by forsaking the desperately repressed; which un-nurtured collapses into egoic sexual approval. We destroy in other’s what we hate or do not accept about ourselves. Hearts not parts. Correlating spirits are not bound by packaging.” – Charles W. Smith III
“The fear had been replaced by an erotic, emotional, physical and spiritual love. Intimacy is not purely physical. It’s the act of connecting with someone so deeply, you feel like you can see into their soul.” – Unknown
“So, until the rest of the country opens up, these few, proud men will keep nuzzling and shyly inquiring in the pursuit of pleasure. “I’m only in this body for so long, so whatever is going to give this spirit the best experience on Earth, I’m taking it. You know?” – Unknown
“Yet, it is wise not to hurriedly over-stress the need for intimacy in our relationships. In other words, we shouldn’t rush in for the most intense relationship we can get by disclosing deep, dark secrets way too soon and fueling the fire of emotional dependency. Such [egoic insecurity] and need-centered relationships are almost always doomed to fail.” – Mark Greene
I dream of a world where a chicken can cross the road and not have it’s motives questioned. We can’t go on together with suspicious minds.
“Male bisexuality, along with all other forms of sexual expression or identities, must not bare a stigma. Every individual is entitled to explore their sexuality, and men interested in exploring bisexuality, or simply sexual acts with men, should not be discourage. An informed conversation and the passage of time are the realistic solutions to the stigmatization of male bisexuality, and that is a solution worthy of the effort.
Oh, yours straight? So is spaghetti, until it gets hot.
Explore every option. If it scares you, it might be a good thing to try. Everything you want is on the other side of fear. The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.
“Every person has at least one fleeting thought about sex with someone of the same gender. It’s completely normal. However, because of the mindset that society has placed on people, men having evening a fleeting homosexual thought is considered not normal. Were a man to express this to someone, they would automatically assume that he is gay as opposed to assuming that he is human.” – Unknown
“Why is more socially acceptable for women to be lesbian but not for men to be gay? Because in our misogynistic patriarchal society men think the idea of two women together is ‘hot’ but the idea of two men together intimidates their masculinity in a society that praises dire independence.” – Unknown
“Watching two women be together sexually allows a man to explore two people of the same gender being together sexually without being criticized in anyway.”- Unknown
Toxic men often use “runnin’a train on a woman as a misogynistic cover for homoerotic intimacy with their homeboys.
If you have sexual feelings about a person of the same sex, that does not make you gay. Fantasies and lust really have no boundaries when they are in your head and emotions, where nobody else knows…but you and God know. Furthermore, gay acts don’t make you gay. I hate how if a woman has sex with a bunch of guys, she’s considered a slut, yet if a guy does the exact same thing, he’s “gay.”
“No, just because I stand up for gay rights doesn’t mean I am gay. I stand up for animal rights, but it doesn’t make me an animal. I’m against deforestation but that doesn’t make me a tree, Assholes…” – Anonymous
“It’s official. Boston is going to have a ‘Straight Pride Parade.
I’m straight. I like being straight. A big reason why I like being straight is that I’ve never experience bigotry for my sexuality. I didn’t have to fight for my right to marry the person of my choosing. I didn’t have to concern myself with being beaten or killed because others didn’t accept who I wanted to sleep with. I didn’t have to stay closeted out of fear, or worry about the reaction of my family, friends, colleagues by coming out.
I never got called a slur for being straight. No one told me I’m going to burn in hell for being straight. There aren’t any programs where I could be sent to be tortured into no longer being straight. There aren’t any countries where you can be put to death simply for being straight.
There’s nothing I ever has to fight for, or struggle against, because I’m straight. And therefore, there isn’t any reason to take pride in it. Grateful for the privileges I get? Sure. But pride? I don’t see it.
What I see is that this parade is misnamed. It’s not a “Straight Pride Parade. It should be called ‘I’m a homophobic piece of shit’ parade.” – James Fell
The Melting Pot of Existence
‘The melting pot of existence’ is a caste system that supports having excessive children and uses a false ideal of independence as an isolation trap to separate us from our roots leaving us forever dependent on our oppressors within a slave society.
Solution: We all NEED each other, especially our roots. There’s no shame in that.
This concept especially applies to men, we’ve discussed earlier in the chapter about gender roles and identity and how our society pushes boys away, telling them to man up and not cry, to not show emotion. As mentioned before, independence is an isolation trap, so the whole spectrum of human touch is isolated to one person’s genitalia. The pressure on her, combined with the desperation he needs fulfilled, results in inadequate “families” everywhere. Yet, the system works because they got us to incubate more babies—more slaves. Otherwise the system leaves us desperate enough to selfishly spread just enough disease to eradicate our own selves and those we care for.
From there you can see how it’s “beneficial” to target the LGBT community for it is a perceived impossibility for homosexuals to reproduce. Ah, but when unashamed of our own joys LGBT CAN reproduce (if we so choose) within the united oneness of polyamorous love. For, it truly ‘takes a village to raise a child.’
SELFISH love is I will love ONLY you. FREE LOVE is I will ALWAYS love you. Ego holds, love liberates.
“I believe if only all of mankind were to acknowledge bisexuality, including the uniquely delicate balance of masculine and feminine energies within us all, then our collective ideology would be free to create institutions, such as marriage, with broader colors, and create a society free of unnatural taboos and narrow minds.” – Unknown
“Societal stigma turns into internalized mental denial, which narcissistically displaces blame and demonizes/villainizes within others that which they do not accept about themselves… This delusional mentality interpreting truth and accountability and intimacy as merely harassment blackmail and in extreme cases a delusional mental and emotional transference of any wrongdoing that perceives their own pleasure as a form of rape.”- Charles W. Smith III
“No one in America should ever be afraid to walk down the street holding the hands of the person they love.” – Barack Obama
“It’s very dear to me the issue of gay marriage. Or, as I like to call it: ‘Marriage.’ You know, because I had lunch this afternoon, not gay lunch. I parked my car; I didn’t gay park it.” – Liz Feldman
Marriage is a human right, not a heterosexual privilege. If you must make a law that hurts a number of people, just to prove your morals or faith, then you have no morals or faith to prove. Marriage, or “the law,” does not validate our own existence. We validate ourselves. Legality does not equate morality. Marriage merely legally confirms our relationships with each other. The government should not be in the bedrooms of consenting adults. Everyone has the divine birthright to create their life as they see fit, without imposing on the rights of others. Marriage equality will not truly exist until gay and polyamorous marriages are recognized under law.
Let’s take a break from debating gay marriage to remember an unmarried 33-year-old man who hung out with 12 guys.
Polyamory
Most feared by serial monogamists who need divorce to cover their lusts. To the judgmental eye we are easily mistaken for swingers until you get close enough to see all the strings are attached. We do not cheat. We do not lie. We are not “easy.” We love bigger and deeper than most. Our hearts are simply too big for any one person to fill. We are Polyamorous. We are love.
It’s true that you can love more than one person just not to that same degree. Each gender has distinct differences that only they can fulfil. To expect that a single individual must fulfill all ones love and desires is selfish. Love is wanting the best for someone. True love is helping your partner(s) better themselves internally, not externally thru codependency. Giving yourself to me can never be wrong if your love is true. Monogamy creates competition, while polygamy/polyamory promotes co-operation. I pledge to co-operate as needed to merge us into absolute oneness. Polyamory can work if each person has a right to veto group decisions.
She comes first, he comes next. Most of us share our sexual experiences with our best friends. Somehow some way, experience and discussion are the only ways to learn. It’s the idea/thought that counts, and studies support that people enjoy sharing and full disclosure.
“I am bisexual, there’s parts of me not meant for any single gender/person. Understand that the love I have for you is meant for only you. Yet I have other needs that must be filled elsewhere, not suppressed and repressed. Don’t cage my being, respect my honesty. I have no need to equate myself to heteronormative standards. My true self is free, it cannot be contained. Accept me as I am and allow me wings to fly. Ego and insecurity cages, love liberates. I am free love.” – Charles W. Smith III
“When I fade off into the darkness that you don’t understand, I hope you wait for me to step back into the light. But if you choose not to, I will thank you. Because if you never understood the dark side of me, you certainly aren’t worthy of how beautiful my light is. My light is only for the ones who never left me alone in the dark.” Stephanie Bennett- Henry
Masturbation: Know Thy SELF
One very important method of learning about Self is through masturbation. Relax, get to know yourself first. Only by knowing self, will you truly learn to know others. Masturbation can be used as a sedative to protect against dangers of unprotected sex.
MANTRAS
I am not afraid to think outside your box.
I will embrace and nurture the gender fluid source of existence.
QUOTES TO LIVE BY
“You’re only as sick as your secrets… I’ve nothing to hide.” –Charles Smith III
“We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by THEIR Creator with certain UNALIENABLE Rights, that among these are LIFE, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.” – Declaration of Independence
Courage is being who you are no matter what anyone thinks about you.
“At some point in time a man switches from “I’ll have what he’s having” to “I’ll have what I’m having.” – Drink Life Deeply
“At the end of the day, you can’t be ashamed of what you love. Do it. Experience it.”- Mos Def
“Take the PERSONAL and render it UNIVERSAL.” – Elizabeth Gilbert and Oprah Winfrey
“Love is NOT about gender. No one has control over whom they fall in love with. In this day and age, if you are homophobic, you are WAY behind the evolution.” -Marcus Patrick
“Our Sexualities are gifts and blessings from God. Sigmund Freud is renowned for his redefinition of sexual desire as the PRIMARY motivational energy of human life. Sexuality must be EMBRACED and EXPERIENCED to be understood. Ancient Egyptians and spiritual Chakra law tell us that sexuality and spirituality coincide. I will never be ashamed of my sexuality and sexual confidence does NOT make me a bad person. Nor does it make me a second-class citizen. In fact, I will fully embrace it and encourage others to embrace their own.” – Charles W. Smith III
“I think everyone should be free to love who they want, there’s not enough love in this world, so find love where you can. And if you find it, consider yourself lucky.” – Dolly Parton
“There is nothing wrong with safe protected consensual sex between adults; regardless of age, gender, social status, or race.”- Anonymous
“It certainly has never been news to me that a brave and brilliant man could love other men.” – J.K. Rowling
The only thing disgusting about two men kissing is how some people react to it.
Oh, you’re afraid gays try to convert people to their own sexual orientation? What kind of horrible people would do that?
The word homophobia is not a phobia. You are not scared. You are an asshole.
Homophobic men hate gay men for the same reason that women on diets hate seeing a plate of cookies… It’s tough when you can’t have something you secretly crave. “You’re only homophobic for two reasons: 1) You’re dumb, or 2) you’re secretly worried that [penises] are delicious.” – Joe Rogan
“As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”- Marianne Williamson
“Never apologize for showing feeling, when you do so, you apologize for truth.”- Anonymous
“The truth of who you are is much more beautiful & valuable than any deception you could construct.”- L. Wanalista
“Closets are for clothes. One day we won’t come out. We will just say we are in love and that will be all that matters.” – Anonymous
“…To be able to live openly, honestly, and unapologetically as yourself, without fear of injury or attack, rejection or compromise, is the divine birth right for all, not the privilege of some… and the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”- Kate Welsh
“Overcome the notion that you must be regular. It robs you of the chance to be extraordinary.” – Uta Hagen
I’m not weird, I just fall outside of your exceptionally narrow view of the world. Sexuality is a spectrum.
“I don’t understand why people think that having a gay child means they failed as a parent. Disowning your child means you failed as a parent. Same sex couples aren’t good parents? When was the last time a same sex child disowned their child for being straight?” – Anonymous
Jesus had 2 fathers. Why can’t I?
“Pride does not always mean arrogance and conceit.” – Kate Welsch
“Don’t expect love from people who are taught to hate. Don’t lose your dignity and self-respect trying to make people love and appreciate you, when they just aren’t capable.” –Jared Casey
“People take different roads to seeking fulfillment and happiness. Just because they’re not on your road doesn’t mean they’ve gotten lost.”- Energy Healing Solutions.
“If you put blue and red together it makes purple. Purple is not referred to as half red half blue though because it is its own color. The same applies to bisexuality and some shades are much bluer or much redder, but they’re still called purple.” – Unknown
“I am not confused. I am not going through a phase. I am not experimenting. I am not half gay and half straight. I am not greedy. I am not lying. I do not need to make my mind up. I am not just trying to be cool. I am certain. I’m not saying everyone is, but I am bisexual.” – Anonymous
“New Policy: Any dude who masturbates to lesbian porn more than twice cannot legally oppose Gay marriage. You don’t get to jack off to someone and then deny them equal rights, hypocrite, it doesn’t work that way.”- Anonymous
“Too often white privilege seems to keep gay white males from making parallels from their own oppression being gay to other oppressions due to their race/culture etc. I see it constantly on my news feed. We have this sad tendency to want gay rights, but not take the time to understand that others are still fighting for equality, as well, for other reasons other than sexual orientation. Remember, you don’t get to choose what is offensive to someone. Listen when someone is hurt and learn from it. Don’t brush it off and roll your eyes.” – Lee Williams
“Fact, White gay people are some of the most racist and hateful people I’ve ever met.
I said it, and I’ll say it again.
I’ve got screenshots of being called monkey, nigger, and told to go hang from a tree- all on a regular basis.
You would think that white gays would be more inclusive since they’re in the minority as well. But, no. They don’t want equality, they want privilege. They can’t believe they’ve been denied white privilege simple because they are gay.
White gay people should NOT be in the forefront of the equality movement.” – Charles W. Smith III
If you’re pro black, but anti-gay, you don’t want justice or equality you want privilege.
Men need feminism too “The first act of violence that patriarchy demands of males is not violence toward women. Instead patriarchy demands of all males that they engage in acts of psychic self-mutilation, that they kill off the emotional parts of themselves. If an individual is not successful in emotionally crippling himself, he can count on patriarchal men to enact rituals of power that will assault his self-esteem.” – Bell Hooks
(Connect next quote about bedbugs to Women- feminism) “Interestingly, they found this wasn’t a resistance mechanism because less penetration force was required to breach this stretchy region compared to other areas… Importantly, this means that tolerance, but not resistance, frees both sexes from the relentless evolutionary arms race that sexual conflict can drive.” – Via Royal Society Interface
Demisexual- A person who does not experience sexual attraction unless they form a strong emotional connection with someone.
“Don’t anchor yourself to the thought that you need to be there for the opposite sex just because you’re a man. If you try to stray from your truths because lies are what others and the norm expects of you, you’ll only damage yourself and trouble others. Be yourself and pursue the things that make you happy and the people that vibrate on the same level. Be there for yourself and those who make your life better, and in turn you’ll be there for them and it will be natural. You’ll be inspiring and spreading a positive message and enjoy life.” – Jesper Cameron
“The enduring gift of bisexuality is that it looks beyond binaries, reminding us that love and value can be found at both ends of the spectrum and everywhere in between.” – Rev. Dr. Janet Edwards